Why Do Arab Women Never Date/Marry Western Men?
Many Saudi wives live abroad with their husbands; others tend to maintain separate residences both inside Saudi Arabia and in Western countries.
Men who do marry, whether out of conviction or convenience, often do it out of conviction or for pragmatic reasons – hoping that by marrying an American-bred bride they’ll experience some pleasure before finding someone from their local culture that can help complete them and the marriage will have longevity.
- They are too masculine
Though marriage in the West may no longer be necessary to start a family and define women’s achievements, in Arab nations it remains so for many reasons beyond religious conservatism alone.
One such concept is guardianship or qiwamah. This legal concept grants male relatives authority over female relatives they consider their responsibility to look after; many see this duty as part of their responsibility towards women they deem disloyal to society or family obligations; this often prevents women from traveling abroad on government scholarships alone or attending classes because their families require that a male relative accompany them if traveling alone is required.
Attribute this situation to Arab culture where some believe women belong solely to their husbands and should not work or express opinions independently of men, and many women and men are fighting back against this outdated view of women’s roles – just look at Princess Jasmine from Disney’s Aladdin or those portrayed as Arab in James Bond: The Spy Who Loved Me for examples of such resistance! Activists have strived hard to encourage women assert themselves but these efforts are often undermined by cultural forces which inhibit this effort.
- They are disobedient
Arab women traditionally play submissive roles, often without much economic independence; this has contributed to delayed marriages and singlehood among educated career-minded women who do not see any reason to commit to the family structure that the Qur’an prescribes as norms.
Opportunism for some men doesn’t just stem from cultural affinity and western femininity – rather, they see dating or marrying western women as an avenue to freedom from sex laws in their home countries.
The Qur’an also contains warnings against disobedience, often understood to refer to wives. According to Chaudhry, however, “obedience” refers more specifically to nushuz; and does not apply universally. Even so, some men still assert that western women are disobedient and will never make good wives; something this view has not gone unnoticed by women defying stereotypes and rejecting society’s demands – this further fuels perceptions that the West might have an incel problem while Middle Easterners might experience something similar iwnoor problem.
- They are sexless
As there are often misperceptions surrounding Arab men’s relationships with women, many view them as controlling, oppressive and dominant with limited tolerance towards female counterparts. Furthermore, Arab men can have very strict views regarding what their women should wear and how they should act.
This stereotyping is untrue and perpetuates widespread assumptions about Middle Easterners and their people. Many Arab/Muslim men would love to marry Western women; this doesn’t entail that they want her to wear hijab as this decision lies solely with her and must be made independently by herself.
Keep this in mind when dating an Arab man: they tend to be highly protective of their family. He does not want too much physical contact between wife and husband, so make sure that when dating him you respect this by not kissing or touching her excessively.
If he likes you, he will be more than pleased to introduce you to his family and show off their wealth. He may buy you expensive gifts as tokens of his affection. Additionally, he will want to spend ample time together and will take you out to nice restaurants.
- They are not educated
As much progress has been made towards closing the gender gap in education in many Arab countries, women still lag behind when it comes to employment and politics. This could be due to various factors including traditional family values that see women more as caregivers than decision-makers, or economic challenges which limit female employment opportunities.
Hollywood movies that portray western women with stereotypically misogynist depictions, like Disney’s Princess Jasmine or James Bond’s The Spy Who Loved Me, creates misperceptions of western women as oversexed and promiscuous; some men without much contact with western culture may believe these stereotypes to be accurate.
At times, this behavior stems from an assumption that women are easy prey for sexual predators or an inability to distinguish between a man and a woman; other times it results from having an inaccurate understanding of Islamic religious laws. For example, Muslim sharia stipulates that rapists won’t face prosecution if they marry their victims, leading some men to hit on western women with conviction while others exploit opportunities by doing so with the hope that luck might favour them – either way it comes down to bad intentions vs reality!
- They are not financially stable
However, for many Arabs living in developing nations where women enjoy greater equality than in the Middle East and North Africa (MENA) areas of marriage remains the sole context for sexuality and parenting – leading to many men feeling entitled to marry someone that meets their unrealistic standards, leaving single women (often labeled “spinsters”) struggling in relationships being asked by media outlets or YouTube personalities to either lower expectations or break off relationships altogether.
However, according to an academic paper shared with The New Arab, families’ heavy involvement in marital arrangements is starting to dissipate. Women from oil-rich nations like Saudi Arabia and Kuwait whose parents invested heavily in education are now becoming financially independent, leading them into successful marriages that bring substantial wealth with them.
Women today have access to credit and banking, giving them control of their financial future and delaying first marriages; as a result, men feel less uncomfortable about dating independent women. Westerners must understand the differences in attitudes towards relationships between themselves and Arab men prior to approaching one.
- They are not independent
Women from Middle Eastern and North African (MENA) heritage have a longstanding tradition of being financially dependent on male suitors, with dowries and agreed financial sums upon divorce making up an integral part of their relationships. Therefore it should come as no surprise that many such women choose not to marry until later or delay it altogether due to Arab countries’ lack of equality and independence; some opting instead for careers instead due to this. As a result, some males have taken to calling females who opt for careers over marriage “spinsters”, with some men even going so far as calling them by name in Twitter feeds and YouTube videos!
Sad, yet true. This reality marred Arab culture’s image, creating a mysterious and alienating experience for outsiders. While most Arab countries have granted women political rights, the perception of an oppressed society persists largely due to Western media coverage; Arab culture itself may not be quite so restrictive after all! Furthermore, many women avoid dating Arab men due to this patriarchal structure – an explanation why many shy away from dating them in general.
- They are not loyal
Arab women who remain single are frequently derided for this choice, labeled ‘spinsters” by media and YouTube commenters who urge them to lower their impossible standards and settle down.
It is surprising and counterintuitive for Arab countries to view marriage as less of a standard for starting families than it once was; academic research indicates that an increasing proportion of Arab women aren’t married by 40 years old.
Although many Muslim women desire a husband from within their culture, this shouldn’t be the reason they fail to find one. People who have experienced dating both Arab and Western men will know it is absolutely possible for these relationships to flourish while remaining culturally distinct from each other.
As for hijab, which is a personal choice unrelated to which man you marry. There are plenty of Muslim men who encourage their wives to wear headscarves while there are just as many who couldn’t care less; those who insist only an Arab partner will make them truly content are engaging in ethnocentric assumptions and should proceed with caution when making such claims.